Are you a New Mum?

Here at Aster & Oak we are parents ourselves and love to talk all about newborn babies and all things parenting related! who doesn’t! Once you becaome a parent its all we seem to talk about, right! So here you will find a great lot of articles on parenting, Newborns, baby-wearing, buying clothing for your new baby, what is it like being a new mum and sharing some of our hints & tips with you!

Aster & Oak love to support New MUMS! It is our mission and goals to inform you and help you along your new journey which can be seriously scary!

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Another life adjustment… You don’t need chemicals for the squeak in your clean.

When you enter the crazy, uncharted waters of motherhood, your perspective on the simple things such washing can alter in ways you never before contemplated. Pre-children, you soaked your whites for a week, hand washed your designer bras, scrubbed and starched cuffs & collars, removed the occasional red wine stain on your husbands business shirt from his Friday work drinks and a chilli oil stain on your chinos from your lazy Sunday morning Yum Cha session with your girlfriends. It was easy. It took time, but you liked things to be perfect and let’s face it – what else were you doing? When deciding on a detergent to use, price was no issue, but the packaging had to be pretty – it had to look good when it was sitting on your perfectly clean, uncluttered and laundry free benches.

Washing would never be the same again.
Now at the forefront of your sleep deprived brain you ‘re wondering which laundry detergent will clean up vomit, nappy blow outs, weet-bix cement, soured nipple pads, footy socks, muddy knees and grass stains with minimal effort from you. As is the cost and your young family’s exposure to chemicals. A consideration high on your list if one of your little cherubs has eczema, dermatitis or any other allergic reactions. Did you know the chemicals contained in traditional laundry detergents reside in the fibres of our clothing and are absorbed straight into our bodies – we then top up those chemicals every time we wash our clothes. *Insert gasp of horror here*

Enter SOAPBERRIES!! – 100% organic, completely natural, hypo-allergenic, anti-bacterial and anti-fungal! You wont believe how simple they are to use and they actually work – I’ve tested them on my tribe! Check below to see what happens when they hit water (its freeeeakin amazing)!!

These little guys are as close to nature as you can possibly get – simply picked from the ‘Sapindus Mukorossi’ tree and dried in the sun, they’re ideal for all the sensitive skins and souls in your home…even the dog – they are great for nits and fleas too ! Being grey water and septic safe, the environment loves them as well… jeeeezzzz they’re practically the equivalent of sliced bread.

If all of the above wasn’t enough reason to make the switch, they’re over half the price of their chemical counterparts. A years’ worth of washing, (over 365+ loads) for $39.00!!  BOOM!

Your skin will thank you. The environment will thank you. Your back pocket will thank you and they will still look pretty on your (now hideously cluttered) laundry bench!

Soapberries organic baby clothing wash

 

Find out more on Soapberries here – http://www.thatredhouse.com.au/

The Top 8 Things I’ve Learnt As A Mother

I used to judge mothers. I judged them for the food they fed their baby, the clothes they dressed them in, the messy house, the products they used, the way that they spoke to them. I had all of these pre-conceived ideas about motherhood; that there are hours and hours of spare time to do things while baby naps, that baby will breastfeed and grow and be happy all the time… or on the other hand that I’d get absolutely no sleep, struggle to shower, my house would be a shambles and I’d really find it hard.

I never came across an in-between, but it’s where I’ve ended up. Because some days it is really, really hard and my baby takes hours to settle and I do struggle to find the motivation to shower and others I have an abundance of time on my hands to chill out. I’ve learnt a lot over the past few months of becoming a mother; because for me, the moment my baby was placed in my arms it felt surreal and it’s only in the last couple of weeks that I actually really feel like a Mum (at time of writing my baby is 10 weeks old).

These Are The Top 8 Things I’ve Learnt As A Mother:

1. Do what you need to do for you and your baby to survive.
I learnt this when against my yearning to completely breastfeed my baby, she lost too much body weight and there were concerns for her health so I had to give her formula. I felt like a failure until I learnt that her health was more important than my pride. And so too are most of the things that we want to hold on to; just do what you need to!

2. Put effort into your relationship
Having a baby will be the toughest experience for you and your partner; include him, make the effort to show him affection too, be a team and be honest with him. Communication is the key; discuss things and make decisions together. It’s easy for resentment and frustration to grow particularly when you’re both sleep deprived and your whole life has changed but make the effort and your relationship will strengthen rather than wither. Oh, and give him a heads up about things – he isn’t a mind reader!

3. It is perfectly okay to ask for help
There is one pre-conceived idea that I will never let go, and that’s that it takes a village to raise a child. You are never alone and you are not a bad Mum if you ask for help (and get it). But so many women struggle with the concept of having someone else care for their baby or do their washing etc., you are no less of a person for getting some help!

4. Be honest, be considerate and don’t judge
There are so many networks available to you when you become a Mum… online and offline. It’s easy to get caught up in what other Mum’s and babies are doing and compare yourself to them. I struggled with my milk supply and seeing photos of full milk bottles and women sharing about their ‘oversupply’ really triggered my ego but I would remind myself that it wasn’t malicious they just hadn’t thought about it. And what might trigger something for me might not for someone else. Just think about it and choose your forum!

No Mum or baby is perfect and no Mum or baby is the same. You will have terrible days; it’s inevitable so use those forums for support, honesty and connection because those things will help you get through those days where you just want to run away. As a good friend said to me, ‘feeling overwhelmed/sad/angry/frustrated at times are all part of being a mother. When your baby is screaming for hours on end and you have done everything the books say and nothing is working and you feel like the worst mother in the world, it’s ok to express those feelings and let it all out.’ And it is always better out than in, because the more you let it eat you up, the more likely you are to burst – and your baby/partner/friend/the random in the street, doesn’t deserve that! Don’t try and be a martyr, you don’t have to do it all and you don’t have to suppress how you’re feeling; there is always someone you can talk to. Be open to finding people that can help, understand, support and lift you up; there are people out there!

5. Take the bits that feel right to you
Everyone loves giving you there 2 cents when it comes to babies, take the advice that feels true for you and forget about the rest. Remember that every baby is different and no one knows your baby better than you and your partner. Some days X will work, and other days it won’t.

6. Let go of the need to control
Sorry, but no matter how hard you try there will be times when things are out of your control in your pregnancy, your labour and when you become a Mum. Surrender and rather than relishing, enjoy it for what it is. You will never have that experience again and there is always something to learn. Your baby is growing and developing and doesn’t mean to keep you from your sleep or your work or your coffee.

7. Find time for you
I emphasize the word ‘find’ because the time doesn’t just fall into your lap. Prioritize; what’s more important the dishes in the sink or your mental health? Happy Mummy, happy baby.

8. The way you feel is more important than the way you look
Our body is an unbelievable thing to grow a baby and regardless of your birth story, your baby is here and YOU grew that! The stretchmarks, the flabby belly, the extra weight aren’t things to be embarrassed about because they are what made it possible for you to grow your angel. Focus on feeling good rather than looking good and always lead by example.

I’m learning and I’ll always be learning but what I know now more than anything is that this magical gift is so worth it. Never have I felt more frustrated and yet so in-love than now. I know that in what will feel like the blink of an eye my baby will be having her own babies. I hate that I used to judge, because the reality is that until you’re experiencing it you have absolutely no clue; so rather than judging and begrudging let’s support and inspire one another. As long as you and your baby are healthy and happy that’s all that matters!

Written by Erin Reghenzani.the top 8 things ive learnt as a mother
Erin Reghenzani helps women overcome fear, self-doubt and that stuck feeling and in turn live a life full of love, confidence and happiness. At the age of 24 and with a mortgage of her own Erin quit her unfulfilling full-time job to follow her passion and start her business, less than two years later she also recently became a Mum.With a whole new understanding of what it’s like to run a business, a household, be a Mum and still be yourself, Erin is on a mission to advocate self-care, self-love and to always lead by example.Erin has helped women all over the world gain confidence, clarity and a positive mindset. Erin’s work includes one-on-one coaching, an online group program, and live workshops. She also has an eBook called ‘Dreamcatcher’. Erin is a qualified Mind Detox Therapist and life coach. Her work specifically focuses on tapping into and letting go of the limiting beliefs that hold people back from succeeding. Change your mindset, change your life.

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Stuff My Parents Never Let Me Do

One of my favorite books is S… My Dad Says by Justin Halpern. The comedic author originally developed this idea through his Twitter feed. He began posting about all of the crazy moments and conversations with his father and his tweets went viral. Thus came the development of his book. And in it, Halpern hilariously describes his father’s interactions and often vulgar advice (for example, “Don’t focus on the one guy who hates you. You don’t go to the park and set your picnic down next to the only pile of dog s.”). Read more

Fresh Produce – Why would you eat foods with Soul?

I thought I was pretty clever when I come up with a little adaption of the Acronym from the slow food movement (Seasonal, local, organic wholefoods). I try to live by this as much as possible – Eating foods with SOUL:  Seasonal, Organic, Unprocessed and Local.

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Best Spaghetti Bolognese Recipe With Hidden Veggies That Kids Love!

I have been asked numerous times to share my ‘famous’ spaghetti bolognese recipe, so here it is! This recipe is simple, quick and full of flavour and best of all, the kids absolutely LOVE it!! Lets be honest, as mothers we dont have endless hours to prepare and cook a fancy meal and alot of us have fussy children that look at vegetables like they are poison. Our Best Spaghetti Bolognese Recipe Can be made any day of the week and any leftovers can be frozen.

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How To Wash Organic Baby Clothes – Easy Tips For Organic Clothing Care

There are lots of ways your family can support eco-friendly practices, and a great way is through purchasing organic clothing. This clothing is not only better for us as consumers… it’s better for the ecosystem as a whole. But, if you’ve recently ordered a bunch of organic baby clothes, you might be wondering how to take care of them. You’ve gone through the effort and extra cost to buy safer clothes… you certainly don’t want to ruin them by using the wrong products or laundering procedures.

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November 5k Giveaway – Win an Organic Handmade Baby Swing

For the month of November we are celebrating reaching 5k Facebook & Instagram followers by giving away a gorgeous handmade macrame baby swing valued at over $200! The macrame organic baby swing is handmade with love and produced from soft cotton weave and wood. Your little one will delight in this swing and it can be used both indoor and outdoors; on the patio or in the garden under the shadow of a tree.

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New Mums: How to Stay Comfortable After Baby

When you’ve had a baby, it can be difficult to feel comfortable in yourself. I mean, a lot has changed. You’ve just become a parent. Your body has changed shape. You’ll feel all kinds of emotional! This post will give you some valuable tips to ensure you feel comfortable after baby.

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Perfect Gifts to Give a New Mum

If you have a new mum in your life, giving her a thoughtful gift is a really nice idea. She’ll be all over the place at the moment. New mums don’t get much sleep, and their emotions are usually all over the place. Regardless of how well they are coping, it’s always nice to know that people are thinking of you and they care. The following gifts are perfect to give to a new mum!

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